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Tuesday, October 21, 2014

My Thoughts on Dating and Marriage

   
      I have often wondered what people actually believe marriage to be these days. What I see shocks me.

      First of all, what is the point of dating? I believe dating is the process of getting to know a person to see if they are suitable to marriage. More or less this was what dating was in the past. If this was the real meaning of dating then why are middle schoolers talking about boyfriends and their first date? If they're in middle school and talking like this then something has definitely gotten twisted because last I checked if you are younger than 18 your too young to be available for marriage. Now I know I just said that dating is to get to know that person to SEE if he/she was suitable for marriage but how long do most people date before they're already telling each "I love you" or "we were meant to be". Not long, maybe a month, if that. These kids give so much of their "love" so many times that, by the time they do get married, they don't have much more "love" they can give to their husbands. Always try and keep a reign on your feelings and be careful not to throw those three little words out there just whenever. Those words are powerful and should wait until your either engaged or mature enough to use them appropriately.

      Secondly, marriage doesn't have to be boring. People think marriage is hard but I think that is your own choice to decide whether it's hard or a bumpy roller coaster. I believe there are two goals when you marry. First goal is to merge with your husband.  Genesis 2:24 says "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one in flesh." I believe that in time you will not only become one in flesh but also in mind. One step to becoming one in mind is to completely submit to your husband not only physically but also mentally. Colossians 3:18 "Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord." The man should never have to answer or submit to the woman; it should always be the woman who bends. Second goal...children. Not only do your parents deserve grandchildren but God wishes you to raise godly children. (Malachi 2:15 " Didn't the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth." ) As for our parents, they deserve grandchildren to dote on after working so hard raising us.

    Proverbs 31:11-29
      Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She finds wool and flax and busily spins it. She is like a merchant’s ship, bringing her food from afar. She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work for her servant girls. She goes to inspect a field and buys it; with her earnings she plants a vineyard. She is energetic and strong, a hard worker. She makes sure her dealings are profitable; her lamp burns late into the night. Her hands are busy spinning thread, her fingers twisting fiber. She extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy. She has no fear of winter for her household, for everyone has warm clothes. She makes her own bedspreads. She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns. Her husband is well known at the city gates, where he sits with the other civic leaders. She makes belted linen garments and sashes to sell to the merchants. She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!”

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